Justin Standfield

My advice for managing family differences and emotions, helping everyone stay focused on creating a ceremony that truly reflects the person being remembered.

Exploring how small, personal items - from scarves to books to fishing rods - can bring warmth, story and authenticity to a funeral.

Why a well-crafted ceremony can capture the essence of a life beautifully, even within the time limits of a typical funeral service.

Gentle guidance for choosing readings and music that feel personal, comforting and true to the life being remembered.

Finding balance between honouring someone’s beliefs and offering comfort to those who grieve, when faith means different things to different people.

Thoughtful reassurance that what you wear matters far less than the care and presence you bring when saying goodbye.

Reassurance and practical thoughts for those unsure whether to give a eulogy or reading - with reminders that there’s no “right” way to take part.

How a meaningful, personal funeral ceremony can still be created together, even when we’re geographically apart - through simple and supportive online conversations.

Not every relationship is easy, and this piece explores how a funeral can still honour someone’s life with honesty, compassion and grace - even when love and loss are complicated.

A personal reflection on how my own experiences of loss led me to this work and why helping families create honest, meaningful ceremonies feels like a privilege.